Wedding Meal Choice Wording for Invitations and RSVPs

The invitation asks what each guest will eat. The card on the table tells them what is coming. Mix those jobs and you get “please choose starter and main” on a form six months before the chef has a menu.

When the courses are real, design the keepsake separately. The Wedy dinner-menu collection — Heritage, Botanical, Toile, Porcelain, Bistro, Limoncello, Laurel and Olive — is included on every plan. That workflow is in how to create a wedding dinner or lunch menu.

The Wedy help text is blunt: leave meal options empty if guests do not need to choose a menu. A family lunch with one set menu only needs dietary notes. A plated dinner with two mains needs named choices.

One sentence on the invitation is enough. Point people to the RSVP. Do not reprint the whole menu in the welcome note.

Dinner is plated. Please choose a main on the RSVP so we can tell the kitchen.

Clear. The form does the work.

We are serving one lunch for everyone. Tell us about allergies or a vegetarian need on the RSVP — there is no other menu to pick.

Stops guests inventing a fish option you never offered.

Children named on your invitation will have a smaller plate. Adults choose meat, fish or vegetarian below.

Only if those children are invited and that plate exists.

Type a short list. The product preview uses Meat, Fish, Vegetarian. That is a good default for a plated dinner. Rename the labels to the actual dishes once the chef is sure — “sea bass” beats “fish” — but do not write a paragraph in each option.

• Meat — or the dish: “braised short rib”
• Fish — or “grilled sea bass”
• Vegetarian — a real plate, not an apology
• Vegan — only if the kitchen will cook one
• Child’s plate — only if you are serving one

On The Wedy you type that list as meal options when you set up the invitation, or as a custom select on the form. Structured answers later sit on the guest list you use for seating. A WhatsApp “we’ll eat anything” does not.

The Wedy form already offers Vegetarian, Vegan, Gluten-free and Allergies, under “Dietary restrictions” / “Select any that apply”. You do not need a second essay in the FAQ unless people keep asking what those words mean at your venue.

Please tick any dietary restriction that applies. If you have an allergy, add a short note so the kitchen can plan.

Matches the product labels. “Short note” stops a life story.

Vegetarian and vegan plates are available. Gluten-free needs a week’s notice — tell us on the RSVP, not the week of the wedding.

Useful when the kitchen has a real constraint. Do not write a deadline you will ignore.

If you are still deciding which RSVP questions to ask at all, start with wedding RSVP questions. Meal choice is one field. It should not become five.

A child’s plate is a logistics fact, not a cute extra. If children are not invited, do not offer a children’s menu. If they are, add one option — “child’s plate” — rather than a second adult tasting.

Skip the meal field entirely when everyone eats the same lunch, the venue is a buffet, or the chef will not take individual orders. Keep dietary restrictions on. An allergy still matters when there is no choice of main.